5 Cool Ideas™ for How to Be More Attractive
By Michael Angelo Caruso

If being physically attractive means to be good looking on the outside, being psychologically attractive is to be good looking on the inside. Being psychologically attractive is a talent that is helpful in almost any line of work and certainly useful in personal life. Here are 5 Cool Ideas on how to be more attractive.

1. It is good to be “attractive” on the inside. 
   In America, we tend to think of attractiveness as being young, sexy and pretty.  By that definition, when we are no longer young, we are no longer attractive.  Let’s think of it another way.  The root word of attractive is “attract” and we are trying to attract our greatest resource – other people.

2. Your unique qualities are attractive.  
   In his fantastic book, “The Four Agreements,” Miguel Ruiz writes that we often compare ourselves to an image of perfection in order to be accepted.  When we discover we are not perfect (which for me happens every day), we reject ourselves and send signals to others that we are not good enough.  The art of being attractive helps you focus on what you have to offer.  When you display your unique and special characteristics to others, they will not only accept you, they will be attracted to you.

3. Show and tell people how you are special. 
   Develop an “elevator speech” that can be delivered to people that you meet. This short speech will allow others to get excited about you and help them anticipate interaction with you. Deliver your message in exciting, provocative sound bites. For instance, instead of saying “I’m a teacher,” smile and say “I mentor heroes.” Instead of saying “I work in a child care center,” jut out your chest and say “I create memories.” Avoid clichés. Focus on leaving distinct, positive impressions. See page 108 of “5 Cool Ideas for Better Working Living and Feeling,” if you want to improve your “elevator speech.” Order the book online.

4. Everyone is an expert at something. 
   Position yourself as an expert. Write a 500-word essay. Submit it to your corporate newsletter office. Send it to your favorite trade publication and your local newspaper. Create a twenty-minute presentation and arrange to deliver it to local Rotary and Optimist clubs at lunchtime. You will be sowing seeds from which great things will grow.

5. Find others to be attractive. 
   By acknowledging the attractiveness of others, you will undoubtedly become very attractive yourself.